Tuesday, January 6, 2009

a lady AND a scholar

my best friend of 13 years left rochester today. mellissa, her husband, her daughter, and her soon to be born baby boy had their butts kicked by the economy and a string of bad luck. they moved back to rochester less than a year ago, after getting married in ohio (where her family now lives).
mellissa and i met in middle school, as the two new transfers. we spent summers together, slept over each others houses night after night, dated boys together, went through some of the hardest and best times together. we've watched each other grow to be women. today mellissa also turned 25. she's one hell of a lady. 


we went for coffee and a donut before she took off this morning. i cried, it's not the first time we've said good-bye but it's hard every time. we WILL live in the same city again. we will. "i'll find me a good man, and we'll move to ____________ together", "you better". i will. 
as we  began to say our good-byes  by her car,  she bounced baby Penelope in the air, they both smiled and kissed, the bright sun lit them up and time stopped for me, for just a moment, a mental photograph i'll never forget. and memories of this past year came back... sitting on the front porch in the summer, our walks, reading forbidden journals, eating huge slices of pizza, dancing beautiful dances for a film,  laughing 90% of the time we're together, and watching Penny grow into a wondrous little girl. it's been a hard year, but it's been fun. with everything going on in our independent lives, we were a 4 minute walk from each other, we were neighbors for a brief time... but it happened, and it'll happen again.

life will hand us lemonade, mellissa. it will. i know it. 

i love you, i'll miss you, i'll visit. i pray now a prayer of ease for you and your family, "God, bless her with a break, just let life cut her a break. A  stress free, comfortable time... for as long as you see fit. If anyone deserves it, it's her. Bless the Saffers with ease. Calm the waters and let them have milk and honey. Amen."

I hope you win the lottery.

2 comments:

Unknown said...

oh my olga, you've brought tears to my eyes. i love you so much.

lisa butterworth said...

this post it so sweet, i nearly shed a tear. friends like that are hard to find and must be cherished, near or far. i'm gonng go hug my besties now.